The daily thought

[wizer]

My wife was seeing a guy for a short time, about a year ago. During that time she was so much easier to get along with..she even said this guy said that I was taking good care of her and the kids financially and helped her see it that way.

When I went over there to get the trailer a few months ago, I was working on the trailer and she came out and said "Will it bother you if my "friend" comes over while you are here? I said "no, of course not", and wondered why she even came out to ask me that. This guy comes over, says hi, and goes inside.

I saw my daughter later that night and my curiousity was piqued so I asked her about the guy. I never ask her about her mom, if she feels like bring up the subject then I am more than willing to listen but otherwise I don't put her on the spot..but this was an exception. She told me the guy was just someone that helped her out around the house, that she doesnt have a boyfriend and hasn't had one in a very long time. And she would know...because she went into detail about the other 2 a year or so back when she was dating.

So why did my wife go to the trouble to ask me if it "would bother me"....the question...is rhetorical, I think it supports the suggestions made in this thread.

She's hurting..

[GoodWitch]

My wife was seeing a guy for a short time, about a year ago. During that time she was so much easier to get along with..she even said this guy said that I was taking good care of her and the kids financially and helped her see it that way.

When I went over there to get the trailer a few months ago, I was working on the trailer and she came out and said "Will it bother you if my "friend" comes over while you are here? I said "no, of course not", and wondered why she even came out to ask me that. This guy comes over, says hi, and goes inside.

I saw my daughter later that night and my curiousity was piqued so I asked her about the guy. I never ask her about her mom, if she feels like bring up the subject then I am more than willing to listen but otherwise I don't put her on the spot..but this was an exception. She told me the guy was just someone that helped her out around the house, that she doesnt have a boyfriend and hasn't had one in a very long time. And she would know...because she went into detail about the other 2 a year or so back when she was dating.

So why did my wife go to the trouble to ask me if it "would bother me"....the question...is rhetorical, I think it supports the suggestions made in this thread.

She's hurting..

Yeah - she's definitely still hurting. Some people take longer than others to feel better.

[Skylla]

My wife was seeing a guy for a short time, about a year ago. During that time she was so much easier to get along with..she even said this guy said that I was taking good care of her and the kids financially and helped her see it that way.

When I went over there to get the trailer a few months ago, I was working on the trailer and she came out and said "Will it bother you if my "friend" comes over while you are here? I said "no, of course not", and wondered why she even came out to ask me that. This guy comes over, says hi, and goes inside.

I saw my daughter later that night and my curiousity was piqued so I asked her about the guy. I never ask her about her mom, if she feels like bring up the subject then I am more than willing to listen but otherwise I don't put her on the spot..but this was an exception. She told me the guy was just someone that helped her out around the house, that she doesnt have a boyfriend and hasn't had one in a very long time. And she would know...because she went into detail about the other 2 a year or so back when she was dating.

So why did my wife go to the trouble to ask me if it "would bother me"....the question...is rhetorical, I think it supports the suggestions made in this thread.

She's hurting..

She's still hurting, maybe even still hoping...that something will change and you will all be that happy family again.

And I think she was trying to maybe make you jealous......which isn't going to work if you are over it all.

[wizer]

Wherever you go, go with all your heart.

My take on it: If you are going to do something, do it right. My OCD works for me in that respect...when I get into a project, whether its related to my vision care practice, or home improvement, or some sort of computer thing...I go at it with all my energy and resources until its done to my satisfaction...

I don't think I put that much effort into my relationships though. That was a weird thought that just popped in my head as I was posting this. I have to dwell on this further...with all I got...

[GoodWitch]

Wherever you go, go with all your heart.

My take on it: If you are going to do something, do it right. My OCD works for me in that respect...when I get into a project, whether its related to my vision care practice, or home improvement, or some sort of computer thing...I go at it with all my energy and resources until its done to my satisfaction...

I don't think I put that much effort into my relationships though. That was a weird thought that just popped in my head as I was posting this. I have to dwell on this further...with all I got...

I always over-focused on my relationships. I think that's changed, though - at least for now. I had a serious breakthrough a few weeks ago about priorities, and, though I'm not fond of this expression, I've had a "sea change" of sorts.

[wizer]

I always over-focused on my relationships. I think that's changed, though - at least for now. I had a serious breakthrough a few weeks ago about priorities, and, though I'm not fond of this expression, I've had a "sea change" of sorts.

You only date mermen?

[GoodWitch]

You only date mermen?

Nope. But I might someday. I'm not prejudiced LOL

[wizer]

Patience is something you admire in the driver behind you and scorn in the one ahead.

George Carlin did a funny routine about this.

I forget the words he used, and it's all in the delivery, but it was along the lines of...

"You ever notice how anyone not traveling at the same speed as you is either an **** or an idiot?

Look at that guy flying by me, what an ****!  The guy in front of you, in the left lane with his left turn signal on, going at or just below the limit, is an idiot!"

I guess you had to be there...

[Murdock]

Nope. But I might someday. I'm not prejudiced LOL

he's kinda cute... can't say I blame ya.

 

[wizer]

Life is a succession of moments. To live each one is to succeed. 

I feel this way especially after my most recent divorce status conference. It's more like life is one hurdle after another. If you can jump over them, knock them down, or go around them, you can start working your way to the next one. Such is life.

[wizer]

Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning. 

Ah, so that dream I had about two women "servicing me", and then taking care of each other...that's really a form of planning. Got it.

 

[GoodWitch]

Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning. 

Ah, so that dream I had about two women "servicing me", and then taking care of each other...that's really a form of planning. Got it.

 

  I had a dream last night that I was on a plane with a golden retriever and two parrots, and people were getting very sick, and some guy was yelling at me that it was my fault, and then the plane crashed in the ocean. The dog was swimming incredibly fast and the birds were hanging on to its back. When I woke up I was actually shaking.
Tonight I'm determined to dream about Jon Bon Jovi and David Cassidy, no planes, no dogs, no birds.

[wizer]

I had a dream last night that I was on a plane with a golden retriever and two parrots, and people were getting very sick, and some guy was yelling at me that it was my fault, and then the plane crashed in the ocean. The dog was swimming incredibly fast and the birds were hanging on to its back. When I woke up I was actually shaking.
Tonight I'm determined to dream about Jon Bon Jovi and David Cassidy, no planes, no dogs, no birds.

Do you know that if you are dreaming that you are falling, and you don't wake up before you hit the ground, you die in your sleep?

I heard that somewhere. It makes perfect sense to me. Except that I had a dream that I was falling, and I woke up AFTER I hit..the floor.

[GoodWitch]

Do you know that if you are dreaming that you are falling, and you don't wake up before you hit the ground, you die in your sleep?

I heard that somewhere. It makes perfect sense to me. Except that I had a dream that I was falling, and I woke up AFTER I hit..the floor.

I've heard that theory and I'm living proof that it's a fallacy. I've dreamed of falling off buildings, etc. This wasn't my first plane-crash dream. (It represents the economy.)

You hit the floor - LOL - funny how you can have an entire dream in just a few real-time seconds. Like if you dream a whole story about fire engines, etc., and it's your alarm clock going off.

[wizer]

I've heard that theory and I'm living proof that it's a fallacy. I've dreamed of falling off buildings, etc. This wasn't my first plane-crash dream. (It represents the economy.)

You hit the floor - LOL - funny how you can have an entire dream in just a few real-time seconds. Like if you dream a whole story about fire engines, etc., and it's your alarm clock going off.

Yes, it's a fallacy. And it's true..you can dream a lot faster than "real time". The mind works in strange ways...